God Gave Me a Song

I’ve been riddled with guilt lately about being a crappy mom. All moms have those moments and when I’m overcome with the shoulda-coulda-wouldas, I get real with God.

I ask for guidance, grace, and strength. Sometimes we talk it out, sometimes I am gently placed on a path in a new direction, other times he puts something in front of me to really think about.

Just the other day God and I were having a conversation while I was driving home. I opened up to God and poured it all out. He knows what’s weighing heavily on my heart and he delivered what I needed almost immediately.

I felt the need to change the radio station in the car to The Message, the Christian music channel on SiriusXM. (I’ve been keeping it on there for the most part when the girls are in the car, then switching it back to The Heat or The 90’s when I’m alone.) But this time a song I had never heard before came on right when I switched it over.

“Slow Fade” by Casting Crowns is not a new song, but it spoke to me right then and continues in my head as I work out my crappy mommy moment.

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you’re thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It is a slow fade. Something you do in increasing amounts over time forms nasty habits, results in poor decisions, and can will have everlasting negative effects on those you love.

We’ve all been there and yeah, it takes a hell of lot of effort not to find yourself going down that path again. Ask me how I know.

As parents, we absolutely must carry ourselves with grace. That said, our children should see us fall from time to time. They should see us hit our knees and seek guidance from our Father. Little eyes, little ears, little hearts… they’re right there watching us, seeking our guidance. We must guard our hearts and we absolutely must guard our children’s hearts.

I wanted to share this song and the background as to why I felt the need to share it. Listen to the words. Really listen.


Slow Your Roll, Mom

I totally know the feeling of “OMG we need to start NOW!” when you decide to homeschool. Even if your kid is still in diapers. Trust me, I’ve been there. I tried to “school” our oldest when she was a tot and it lasted all of a week. Kids just need to play. Play is learning.


Ask any mom of older children, any teacher, any childhood “professional”, or check out all the science to back it up – play is learning. Kids need to play.

Our youngest (almost 2) is advanced, but I’m not starting school with her any time soon. I don’t care how much she’s “a sponge” or “craves more”. She’s adding massive amounts of words to her vocabulary every day and conversing well beyond her age. Should I start some letter-a-day program? Pfft. No.

We’re currently potty training. She runs around naked all day (okay, so she usually has shoes on because she loves shoes) and occasionally pees on herself. My expectations right now include her making in to the potty half the time. So far, she’s exceeding those expectations. Go lil sis!

P.S. The ONLY concern I have right now is that she really likes being naked.

So what brought about this topic tonight? Social media of course.

I was skimming through a very popular homeschool mom Facebook group when I stopped on a post by the mother of a two year old. She has mapped out lesson plans with the entire day structured around subjects like “indoor/outdoor gross motor skill”, “practical life activity”, and if you look under “music”, you’ll find piano lessons. There are also daily books, sign language, letters, numbers, and colored dictated for the week.

The majority of replies were telling her to just let the kid play, read to her… ya know, let her be two and just be an attentive mom. She didn’t seem very receptive of that advice. A few were mystified by her post, a few others cheered her on. The later also had very small children who did “school”. Like this mom…

(You can guess who “liked” that.)

Apparently being a mom is so rare nowadays that simply raising a child is “school”!

Have small children? Want them to be smart and super awesome learners? LET THEM PLAY.

I’m done.


We went to DC… to see pens.


Yep, we’re that family. We’re that family who embraces one another’s interests and since my husband’s newest “thing” is fountain pens, we ended up at the World’s Largest Pen Show in DC yesterday.

There were tables upon tables, room to room, lined with pens, ink, stationary, display boxes, etc. etc. etc. …and maybe even a little more etc. My husband knew exactly what he came to see. The girls and I wandered about, ooh-ing and ahh-ing over anything pink, sparkly, or resembled something other than a pen. Like this Tarzan pen for something like $8,000. Do you even write with that? I get anxious writing with a $6 pen I got on sale.

penshow2My oldest had fun with the scavenger hunt hosted by Pen Collectors of America. She ran all over the conference area asking vendors for certain items, locating pen doctors, and whatnot. Everyone was very warm and encouraged her curiosity. Many comments were made about the art not dying out so long as kids are interested.

One vendor even stopped what he was doing to dig out a calligraphy set for her to play with. He told her to doodle with the pen, which she immediately signed her name in cursive and knocked his socks off. {Proud mommy moment.} Once her booklet was completed, she returned to the PCA booth to collect her prize: a new, pink fountain pen with cartridges for her own collection.

See, never be afraid to take your kids with. Unless an event states “no kids”, take them. We were a little out of place being new to the scene, but it was an enjoyable event for the whole family. Even our 22 month old had fun people watching.

Who knew it would tucker ’em out? The slept all the way home! Pens shows rock.


So now I can mark this off my bucket list.


The Great Big Girl Bed Search

In yet another display of how different siblings can be, the other night we discovered little sis can climb out of her crib. Big sis never made an attempt and wasn’t moved to a toddler bed until she was potty trained. Every kid is in deed different!

Big sis has been begging for bunk beds and while I’m a fan of the idea for sake of space, we’re highly concerned about lil sis practicing her long dive.

Enter, the Ikea KURA loft bed. It has the same dimensions as big sis’ current bed (also Ikea ’cause that’s how we roll), not as tall as a traditional bunk bed, and comes in at a reasonable $209.kura-reversible-bed-white__0179751_PE331953_S4I’m a huge fan of Ikea hacking, so it’s safe to assume that I landed on Pinterest pretty quick. The general idea is to throw a mattress in the loft space creating a bunk bed that isn’t 244 feet in the air making it toddler-friendly. From there it’s up to your imagination. Like most with multiple children, functionality and space-conscious design is key. Being frugal, cost is also a major factor. The KURA fits the bill.

So while I’m collecting ideas to make our own transition from crib and twin bed to a one-size-fits-all bunk bed, let’s check out some super cute ways to “hack” an Ikea KURA loft bed…

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Hope you enjoyed these hacks as much as I did. I can’t wait to get started on ours!




Our Second Grade Curriculum & Schedule

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We’re super pumped about starting second grade!

Our oldest is beginning to understand the concept of grades and climbing up that ladder. She’s very proud of herself [as are we] that she’s moving on up. (Did you just sing “toooo the east side!”? Because I totally just did when I typed that.) I love her enthusiasm for learning.

As I mentioned before, we are transitioning from unschooling to traditional homeschooling this year. This means I’ve worked “school” into our typical daily routine in such a way that it doesn’t really change anything at all. We’re looking at about two hours per day of “school” – whether that’s in a chunk or throughout the day.

I’ve mapped out below what subjects we’re covering on what days and for how long. I’ve also included specific curriculum, links, and costs.

Let’s get to it, shall we?



Morning Work
Daily, 15 minutes While I make breakfast.
2nd Grade Morning Work Book
by Second Story Window
$26.00 + Cost of Printing, Instant Download
Note: I print this out and put it in its own 1″ binder. You could also take it to Staples to be bound. (Heads up – they will NOT print it.)


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Daily, 10 minutes
Level 2 New Testament Part 1 and Part 2
by Grapevine Studies
$22.50 (Teacher)
$12.50 (Student)0blank0blank

Daily, 10 minutes
Level B Jack and Jill
by Spelling You See
$30.00 (Student)
$16.00 (Teacher)



2ndgradecurrsched5Handwriting/Copy Work
Daily, 10 minutes
Handwriting Cursive Workbook Level 2
by Bright Child
2nd Grade Sight Word Sentences
by Confessions of a Homeschooler
Free + Cost of Printing, Instant Download


Monday, 10 minutes
World’s Greatest Composers
by Confessions of a Homeschooler
$5.50 + Cost of Printing, Instant Download
Note: We started on this in kindergarten. We’ve really enjoyed it!


Tuesday, 10 minutes
World’s Greatest Artists 1
by Confessions of a Homeschooler
$5.50 + Cost of Printing, Instant Download



Friday, 10 minutes
Health, Safety & Manners
by Abeka
$14.20 (Student)
$21.30 (Teacher)
Note: After checking out the student book, I did not purchase the teacher edition.


Daily, 20 minutes
Beta Level
by Math U See
Note: Your first set will cost more because it includes all of the manipulatives. After the first set, you can just buy the workbook sets for $72.


Daily, 20 minutes
Science 2nd Grade
by Abeka
$14.20 (Student)
$21.30 (Teacher)


Daily, 20 minutes
History 2nd Grade
by Abeka
$14.20 (Student)
$21.30 (Teacher)


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If you are looking to purchase Abeka curriculum, be sure to stalk check out the Abeka Resale Facebook Group. I ended up purchasing all of our Abeka materials on there in new condition for 1/3 of the price.

Thanks for letting me share. Good luck this year!


10 Years a Wife

post_pic3whymariedhssweethrtroxToday my best friend and I celebrate ten years of marriage. The theme of our wedding said it best, “Today I marry my best friend.” Even the napkins declared our status in silver foil, so you know it’s legit.

We met when we were 13. We were high school sweethearts, went off to college together, the whole fairy tale. That said, we’re not without our ups and downs. Please don’t think we’re perfect – we’re far from. We’re two people growing up, together, apart, and meeting in the middle.

I am so thankful the Lord put this man on my path. He pushes me to live out my dreams, be better than I was the day before, and knows when I need a day to come undone. He’s a wonderful father, husband, and leader of our family. He’s everything.

Ten years ago we were just a couple of broke college kids. Our engagement didn’t come after a fancy dinner with flowers or during a public declaration of our love in front of family and friends. He had the ring and couldn’t wait, so he popped the question while we were watching tv on the living room floor one night. It was perfect.

We had a DIY wedding and rather than being whisked off to a luxurious honeymoon, we cleaned the hall, then packed up leftovers and headed home to our apartment where there was an eviction notice taped to the door. It was a crazy, wet, fun day with our family and friends. Sure, we could do it up better if we were to do it again, but honestly, that was our wedding and I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s a good reminder of where we were, how far we’ve come, and where we’ve yet to go.


It’s the little things I remember most. Like vibrating with excitement as I said my vows. I loved my flowers – purchased in bulk direct from a farm in Sweden (we saved a ton going this route and yes, I made my own bouquet). White carnations like my grandmother had at her wedding and they smelled like heaven. Our wedding cake, made by my aunt, was strawberry with a big rhinestone covered “S” on stop. We danced and danced and danced – the groomsmen kicked things off early by stripping and doing the worm. We had a signature sangria that was absolutely delicious. There was also a candy bar complete with cotton candy machine.

So much has changed I don’t even think I could cover it all. We’ve been through, over, and under more than one would think you could jam into ten years. The best part is we’re not finished yet. The party is just getting started.


What’s most important is that we’re right where we’re meant to be with two little girls to join us on this journey.

If I had any advice to give, it would be to marry the person who best compliments you. Love comes and goes, and it takes a lot of work to hold together sometimes. You have to be friends first so that there’s a home base of sorts to return to when things get rough. We have similar goals and tremendous respect for one another. You couldn’t find a bigger cheerleader for either of us. We’re complete opposites who can’t live without the other or we would be horribly unbalanced.

The plan was to be back in Arkansas this weekend for a blowout anniversary party. (I still have a Pinterest board with every last detail accounted for.) Unfortunately, life throws you curve balls and things don’t always go as planned. So today my husband is at work while I’m home with the girls dealing with all the fun that comes along with potty training. Tonight we’ll rent a movie and order some takeout after the girls go to bed… and that’s perfect.

I wonder what the next ten years hold? More kids? Another move? Whatever it is, it’s sure to be an adventure with my best friend.

I’ll leave you with our ridiculously cheesy wedding montage video.


Warner Hall | Gloucester, VA

One of my pit stops while on vacation was at Warner Hall in Gloucester. This is the home of my 11th great grandfather, Augustine Warner. He’s quite the mover and shaker. Most notably, he was a member of the House of Burgesses, serving as Speaker of the House in 1676. He then sat on the King’s Council until his death.

Prior to leaving for vacation I emailed the innkeepers asking if I could drop in, which they gave warm welcome to. They ended up being on vacation, so their sister showed me around. I am so thankful for all of the work they’ve done to restore the home to its full glory.


Warner Hall was once a working plantation which now serves as an inn and outstanding wedding venue. The right wing is original. The main house has burned and been rebuilt twice since 1652 (staying true to the design).

This is where a young George Washington danced in the parlor, the British stayed during the Revolutionary War, and Robert E. Lee as well as Abraham Lincoln visited during the Civil War. Yep, Lee rode Traveler on these very grounds. They do have some artifacts sprinkled about the house.


To the back of the home along the York River sits the family cemetery where my ancestors rest – my links to Lewis Meriweather, Robert E. Lee, George Washington, and Queen Elizabeth II. These graves date back to the 1600’s. In front of Augustine’s grave is a “Virginia Founder” marker. I am thankful for the society who tends to this cemetery. A chunk of our nation’s history lies there.

We spent a great deal of time in the cemetery. Honestly, the moment I stepped into the cemetery I felt a familiarity. I feel such a strong connection to these people and wanted to honor them while visiting. I shared what I knew of them with my daughters and had a quiet moment of reflection. All amazing tales aside, this is my family. Their blood runs through my veins. I exist because of them.

I love tending to my genealogy and I’m a huge history buff. This was just above and beyond anything I have experienced as of yet in my genealogical travels. The only way I can sum up this amazing experience is by noting what an honor it was. This was a monumental occasion.

The innkeepers do host an annual family reunion for decedents. I’m looking forward to attending next year.


I Crowned the County Fair Queen

This weekend I crowned my first ever fair queen. Five of them, actually.

When it looked as though our county fair would go without its staple fair queen a second year in a row, I knew I needed to push things around my plate to make room for it… and I’m so glad I did!

The last pageant had something like nine contestants and it has been several years since there was a Miss. See, our county fair queens advance to the Virginia Association of Fairs pageant which is a preliminary to the Miss Virginia pageant. The last time this county went to VAF, she won. Why a rep hasn’t return after that is unknown, but I am honored to be doing just that this year. Oh, and I had 30 contestants which is “huge” for these parts.

Thursday night was the pageant. It was in an outdoor pavilion. Yep, 90-something, humid as hell, with nothing more than a few ceiling fans. A summer storm blew through right before we began practically emptying the pavilion of all its contents. But you know what? We made it happen. Even when every cotton pickin’ little thing went wrong, we still got the job done. I swear, I’ve helped with/directed many pageants over the years and have never put as much into a pageant as this one. Whew! It was a task, but very much worth it.


Friday was spent handing out awards at the livestock show, various photo opts, etc. You know, fair queen stuff.

I had two wedding cake snow cones. You know, director stuff.

Saturday we spent the morning at the fair again doing more queen stuff – buyer’s lunch, riding rides, more photos. After lunch we headed out to make appearances at two other county fair pageants. It was a great bonding experience for these ladies. It was a very long day, but again, so very worth it.

I can’t wait to see our county represented at VAF again! I know our Miss will be a showstopper. She’s just as beautiful on the inside as the outside, and such a smarty pants.


Test Test, Baby

Ugh… testing. I dreaded this. I mean, she’s six. SIX! Why test so soon?!

But, y’all, we did it and lived to tell about it.

We ended up doing the CAT6 through Christian Liberty since it is so widely used by the homeschool community.

Why that particular test? The answer is found on their website: “We still use the older version of this nationally normed achievement test because the newer editions reflect a lower academic standard. Most educators will acknowledge the fact that our nation’s educational standards, as far as student achievement in the basic skills is concerned, have dropped considerably since the early 1970s. It is our professional opinion that the more recent versions of achievement tests simply do not demand as high a standard of achievement because too many of today’s students are ill-equipped to handle the level of evaluation that was common in the early 1970s.” It’s snarky, but it’s the truth.

Twenty-five bucks and two hours later we had the test out of the way and results in our hands. The test was easy to order, immediately accessible, easy to administer, and fun for my little test-taker. Results are immediate as well. Win!

Naturally, I had my concerns. I mean, we unschooled the last two years. Lots of people around us doubted it cause me to doubt my own choices at times. Would she be okay with the material on the test??? Well, let me tell you! She didn’t just pass, she told that test who’s boss. I couldn’t be more proud or relieved!

As we move out of unschooling and into more traditional homeschooling for second grade, I can honestly say unschooling was both a blessing during a turbulent time (settling into a new hometown – heck, a new coast – and welcoming a new baby) and exactly what our child needed. She blossomed under its relaxed style. “Trust the process.” they say. We did and we reaped the benefits.

After this, I feel like legit homeschoolers. I’m off to order curriculum now that I officially have a second grader.

Trust the process. Happy testing!


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